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What If Upping

What if I fail? What if no one likes me? What if I didn’t do that right? What ifs are so often the mind spinning into every negative catastrophe it can think of. What if… you switched that? I like to play with “what if upping.” What if… I could do what I love? What …

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What’s your play?

When I start working with clients, I have them define their terms. What might be obvious to them isn’t so obvious until we talk about it. Take the word “play.” What is the first thing that comes to mind? For someone, play might be a kid playing hopscotch. For another, it might be silly jokes. …

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For when you lose something (or someone) important, and face the fear of being alone…

The fear of being alone is such a thing. Sometimes it’s clearer to know the story of how you are in relationship with someone or something else. A parent, daughter, friend, partner, school, work. The roles and responsibilities are clear. You can be who they need you to be. You can do what needs to …

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