Finding Your Words

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The fated question: “What did you do over the weekend?”


Mind: Weekend. There was a weekend. I must have done things. BLANK Why can’t I think of what happened? Amnesia—no, I didn’t hit my head. Memory loss?

Eyes: See expectantly waiting face.

Mind: Oh no, I haven’t answered. Must answer.

Mouth: “Uhhh.”

Sound familiar? Whether it’s in speech or written, finding your words can be awkward at times.

I read this great article on the science behind why introverts struggle to speak. It puts the difficulty of finding words in perspective.

Here’s some things to remember when you find yourself with a blank mind.

It’s okay to take time to find your words. The pressure of rushing never helps, whether you’re put on the spot or judging yourself for not having an answer. Take time to alleviate the pressure so the right words can arrive naturally. You might ask for more time to answer a question or soothe your inner critic before returning to your pen.

Take heart in your own personal strengths and preferences. You may be generally more comfortable writing or speaking, and that’s great. Affirm your gifts. Introverts, even if you struggle with describing your weekend, you may find ease in writing. Extroverts on the other end of the spectrum, it’s okay if it’s easier to voice-to-text your first draft.

Find your own ways to do what you need to do. When you struggle to instantly express yourself, you might try writing a letter or preparing a script ahead of time.

Feed your creative self. Whether that’s through your writing practice, brainstorming with a friend, or taking a writing class, fuel your inner creator. Take the urge to create seriously and value your whole self, knowing that awkward!you isn’t the only part of your whole being.

How do you use your gifts to find your words and create purpose in your life?